go on with your brave self
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There are so many things that are different about me, now 6 years post-divorce.  It’s actually pretty incredible when I look back on the person I was, seeing how insecure I was, and how cloudy my judgment and mind were. My husband and I just saw the movie ‘The Post’ last night.  If you haven’t seen it or don’t know … Read More

parallel parenting – 6 steps to help
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I remember when I was finally on my own after being separated, and how much weight I put on being ‘the perfect mom’, especially at that immediate time.  It’s pretty obvious why we hold so much weight on being perfect – we have so much guilt about having to go through a divorce at all, what we think the kids … Read More

Freedom and Chaos – Single After a Toxic Relationship
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So you have made the difficult transition and had the courage to leave your toxic relationship. If this is the case, I’m really proud of you.  When I was finally “free” from under the same roof as my ex, I think the idea of that freedom was very different than the reality.  It was all totally worth it, and I … Read More

8 signs you are in a relationship with a narcissist (and what to do about it)
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You feel like the crazy one a lot these days. You start out feeling confident in why you’re upset or not feeling right about an issue that happened between you two, you’re feeling warranted in your emotions.  Then you try and have a discussion with your partner about it, and it somehow gets waaaayyy off subject, and now your partner is … Read More

you are NOT your wounds…
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I’m sure you’ve had more than few bad days in the chaos of your marriage or relationship ending.  Too sharp a tongue with the kids, taking something to a level 10 when normally it would be a 2, forgetting things when you are normally like an elephant.  For me, it solidly felt like I was a different person and that … Read More

mom guilt is the worst
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Me:  “So ladies, you’re going to have to get a couple of teeth pulled, remember when the orthodontist told you that?” Girls:  “Yeah.  Is it gonna hurt?  Do they give us that laughy gas stuff?” Me:  “I’m not sure what they use, but when I was young, I had to get 4 TEETH PULLED at the same time!  And I … Read More

momming on your own
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I was a pseudo-single mom for about 5 years after separating from my ex-husband. That’s what I call it at least – a pseudo single parenthood, where my custody schedule was split 50/50 and my girls had two loving parents, just at different times. Those years were both happy and terrifying.  I found myself to be a bit of a … Read More

attract all the things!
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Stop attracting what you don’t want – practice being positive, especially when you’re going through a rough patch Have you ever tried to avoid someone that you know, and then end up seeing them at the store or somewhere else totally random?  And like…it got weirdly awkward because it was more than once?  I know this might be hard to … Read More

8 things I wish I knew before separating
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So you either had an ‘aha!’ moment regarding leaving your marriage, or it wasn’t up to you.  Maybe you both knew this was not going to get better.  Whatever your situation, I’m sharing what I wish I knew a long time ago.  FWIW, I left my marriage and it was not an option when that became clear to me. I … Read More

Am I screwing up my kids?
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Drop the guilt. I decided to create this blog to be a resource or a shoulder for a woman that feels lost, alone, defeated, or unsupported.  I started this because when I was becoming divorced with 2 small children, the only things I could find on ‘divorce support’ or ‘separation guidance’ were checklists on ‘how to know if your marriage … Read More

I know you
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Hey – don’t I know you?   You’re the woman down the street from me…the one that I look up at briefly at and give a quick wave to as I keep walking my dog.  Or you’re the colleague at work that I chat with sometimes in the breakroom – the woman who is both on-trend who has gorgeous family pictures … Read More

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